As a woman, I have been socialized to bear the emotional burden of the people I interact with– whether they are complete strangers or people I love and want to support.
The story seems to go the same way each time that we tell it: we are tired of facing physical, sexual, and verbal threats. However, in the case of harassment, it is also important to recognize a disparity in women’s experiences.
Gaslighting is a common psychological trick that removes accountability and stifles discourse by laying blame on the victim or convincing them that there is no problem to begin with.
We are pushing ourselves to our absolute limits at institutions like American college campuses that do little to change this toxic environment.
Instructing one another on the ways in which we are racist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic, etc. simply reinforces the self-righteous conduct and power-oriented behavior that led us to our currently inequitable world. Becoming effective accomplices rather than compliant “allies” is a challenge we must all accept to progress towards empathy and liberation.
When we look at these scenarios, what is crucial to notice is that dynamics of privilege define these interactions… Essentially, what this person has is the privilege to silence someone.
Capitalism and patriarchy reinforce one another by means of the nuclear family – the true liberation of women requires the abolition of the family as it is currently structured.
My “black” hairstyle is in no way a reflection of my work ethic, skills, or qualifications as an employee.
The invisible, extra burden of a public cry feels so illogical. So what’s the big deal with crying in public?
I was determined to find an answer, some sort of tangible proof that women were, indeed, funny. So I interviewed 4th year European Studies major and Theater minor Katie Green, a student comedian and proud feminist at UCLA.